I realised my "list" was just a way of putting a guard around my heart to prevent me from the very thing I so longed for. A list is just another way of trying to control the outcome and love cannot be constrained in such a way. So many of the attributes I wanted in a husband were a reflection of my own pride and discontentment for things in my own life and upbringing that I wanted to escape from. God has revealed my sin to me and humbled me in this regard and I am thankful for that.
What I see are people that become very good at dating but have little experience in building a relationship. So the marriage falls apart in short order and they go back to what they know--dating. I actually have very little experience dating but two successful marriages, one 37 years and the other ten, both ending when my spouse died. I have no idea how to deal with dating.
I realised my "list" was just a way of putting a guard around my heart to prevent me from the very thing I so longed for. A list is just another way of trying to control the outcome and love cannot be constrained in such a way. So many of the attributes I wanted in a husband were a reflection of my own pride and discontentment for things in my own life and upbringing that I wanted to escape from. God has revealed my sin to me and humbled me in this regard and I am thankful for that.
What I see are people that become very good at dating but have little experience in building a relationship. So the marriage falls apart in short order and they go back to what they know--dating. I actually have very little experience dating but two successful marriages, one 37 years and the other ten, both ending when my spouse died. I have no idea how to deal with dating.
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